It seems bizarre as a thirty something women that I need reminding of this on a daily basis.
As small children, if we are lucky enough, we are told how amazing we are, how clever we are, how brave and courageous we are.
As we get older, events or people deciding to burst our bubble make us question our incredibleness and rock star status.
It may be as simple as someone saying “you’re being so stupid” that we interpret as “I am stupid and lack intelligence”.
Or an innocent comment of ‘stop eating like a pig with your mouth open’ to mean “OMG there right, I am so fat!’
Over the years, I have had many comments that I have misconstrued and only after having the courage to approach the person or to clarify it, did I realise that I was completely wrong and there was no malice intended.
However, there have been comments that I believe were intended to cause harm. Times when I have had to draw on all my powers to not crawl into a ball and hide from the world.
If it is ok with you, I would love to share a few jaw droppers, that for days, weeks and months after they were said to me, ran around my mind on rotation, threatening to push me into a dark hole in ‘You will never be enough’ land.
After bearing 2 two children, working part time as a teacher and taking up multiple casual jobs to contribute to my family I was told - “You are just lazy and haven’t worked a day since your son was born!”
Ah helloooooo! Gut kicker!
I have been told - ‘You are a miserable human being and NO one likes YOU!’ - hmmmm hello, have you met me? Unless I am delusional, I think I am a pretty upbeat, glass half full kinda of gal.
Oh and how about this one after starting a new business - “You are a joke and everyone is laughing at you behind your back!” - Ouch!
Do you know the scary thing about this? They were all from people that I used to have a lot of respect, love, and compassion for. That I had invested time in and thought were lifetime friends, not just the kind that bless us with their lessons and keeps moving through life.
While I look at this now and think, what a joke.
That is just rubbish.
At the time, they hurt.
I mean really hurt.
Yes, these hurtful comments could have seriously derailed me (which they did for a while). Thankfully, I have been able to move forward with my head held high - with a whole lot of soul searching, surrounding myself with top notch people, using a river full of essential oils and jumping on board the positive affirmations train.
I AM ENOUGH!
As a mother, we very often feel that the person we were prior to kids, will never show her wrinkle free and stretch mark free self again.
But do you know what, do we really want her to?
What if we accept the fact that it is ok to let go of parts of us that no longer serve us. That the journey we have been on, the emotional and physical roller coaster that becoming a mum takes, actually was all for a reason. To be able to build us up into an even more incredible version of who we already are.
See, it was all part of the plan, going through "stuff", allows us to develop the tools to help deal with the *hit heads who want to burst our bubble.
I am enough!
I am an incredible woman and mother.
I am a positive role model for my children.
I am kind, considerate and an asset to society
I am a badass that people want to be around.
My heart-fully healthy message is one that all mothes should hear.
So as a daily reminder, I pledge to roll my ‘I am Enough’ essential oil on my wrists each morning (and several times a day as needed). The act of doing it, saying it and the combination of aromas will be a constant reminder that I, just like you, are perfect, just the way we are.
What’s in this SUPER MUMMA blend?
FRANKINCENSE - Oil of Truth
ROSE - Oil of Divine Love
CLARY SAGE - Oil of Clarity and Vision
WILD ORANGE - Oil of Abundance
GRAPEFRUIT - Oil of Honouring the Body
BERGAMOT - Oil of Self- Acceptance
If you want to get your hands on a sweet bottle of goodness (especially in time of Mother's Day), You can email firstname.lastname@example.org and I can make sure you can get one xx