'There are only 3 things women need in life: food, water & compliments' - Chris Rock
I think he is on to something. Let me tell you why.
On Saturday, I was in the City, participating in a course. We had been given a break for lunch and because I was super prepared, I had packed lunch. I was in need of a nice grassy area to sit and eat, but just couldn't find one that was not too far away from the venue.
So I found a sunny spot on a step and planted my bottom, around the corner from a few cafes. There I was enjoying my lunch, doing some much needed people watching and checking my phone for any important Facebook updates, when a car pulled up right next to me. The driver kept looking across at me as he was getting ready to get out of his car.
I started to feel nervous, my heart was racing a little faster and I started thinking that maybe I shouldn't have been sitting where I was. Maybe this was the steps to his business? Was he going to tell me to move? I had my apology all ready in my head.
He got out of the car, carrying what looked like a cake box, and started to walk towards me. Oh geez.......
As he walked passed me, he smiled and said " What is such a beautiful looking girl like yourself doing sitting there eating alone?"
I took a breathe and replied ........ "Thank you".
With just a few words, this stranger had made me feel amazing. I had a smile on my face, I was sitting up a little straighter and was thinking about how kind that was for him to have said that. If I was to rewind a little bit, I had not been feeling all that great for the few days prior. I had been a little under the weather, a bit over myself and in general feeling crappy. With just one sentence, a stranger, had changed my mood and outlook.
The power of a compliment.
I find some people have got giving and receiving compliments down to an art form. You know the type, compliments just float out of their mouth like poetry and when they receive one they take it on board with confidence.
Receiving a compliment can be just as tricky. It has taken me a long time, to learn to just say "Thank you." Even though my malicious mumma voice, maybe telling me what they have said is untrue.
I do my best to compliment people. About all sorts of things. From what their wearing, to their hair style, their nail polish colour or letting them know I think they have done a great job at something. I figure if I am thinking it, they deserve to know it. Maybe thats just the tid bit of positivity they needed to put a smile on their face.
What do you tend to compliment people on?
Tips for giving and receiving compliments
1. If you feel it, say it - If you see someone do something amazing or the lady at the supermarket check out has a super cool pink nail polish, tell them. What's the worst that can happen?
2. Mean it - Only give a compliment when you really mean it. A bit like the saying "don't say anything if you have nothing nice to say." Don't just dish comments out without really beieving it. People can smell a fake comment a mile a way.
3. Be gracious - If someone has taken the time to give you a compliment, don't shoot them down or tell them all the reasons why you don't like what your wearing or your hair style. Acknowledge it and say, thank you. "Thanks, I really like this colour jumper too." It will leave you both feeling good.
4. Pay it forward - Soak up how great it makes you feel when someone gives you a compliment and pass it on. Pay it forward to someone else, so they can share that some feeling. Doesn't have to be right that second, just at some point in the next day or two.
So I think Chris Rock was on to something -There are only 3 things women need in life: food, water & compliments.'
You know that I love food, water is just essential but giving compliments definitely make the word a nicer place.
Now your turn.
Give someone a compliment today and let me know how it goes in the comments below.